Have spent the last day mucking around on Goodreads, and ended writing a feminist rant-review about the Christy Miller Series. It’s something that’s been brewing for a couple of years I think – which I only had the clarity to write about now. For me these books are all tied up in my larger issue with Christian marriage and sexual morality. If this is totally boring for everyone but myself I’m not too offended – hashing out my thoughts on this was good – it got me all worked up and I haven’t felt like that in a while!
After growing up in a Christian community where The Christy Miller Series and other Christian Teen Fiction were read, swapped, borrowed and believed in, it’s only in the last few years that I have a strong critique to make of these books. Robin Jones Gunn‘s Christy Miller and Sierra Jensen series are of the same ilk as earlier novels such as the Elizabeth Gail series – teen stories about a girl growing up and struggling with adolescent issues just like ‘everyone else’, only at the same time discovering a faith in God. It is this journey of faith that influences the decisions the protagonist makes regarding friendships, relationships with boys and dating – learning to trust her ‘father God’ becomes the most important learning curve in life, with His laws and ways becoming the moral compass that guides her decisions. As a teenager I gobbled up these stories with delight, trying to make them fit with my own life, only to find that they didn’t, for a number of reasons.
My biggest problem is that these books are the modern Christian reincarnation of the Cinderella Story; the homely girl blossoms into a pure young woman and gets the Christian boy of her dreams at the end of the story – as long as she follows the rules and stays chaste. Christy, Elizabeth and Sierra are modeled on patriarchal heroines – despite having career aspirations, their overriding desire is to be married, and they wait longingly for the boy their Father God has picked out for them. Further, it is the male (both God and their future Husband) that must take the action. In these moral tales, as long as the girls flee the temptations of sexual experimentation with non-christian boys or *going too far* before marriage, everything turns out okay. Christy even writes letters to her future husband, the one that God has picked out for her, and constantly prays to God for His guidance in helping her wait for him.
My emphasis on these issues may seem an over the top, since alot of the earlier Christy books are lighthearted teenage fun. However the last three Christy books (The College Years) become far more serious in their themes. Despite the author never explicitly discussing sex, or even using the word (and this fact is also problematic), the entire narrative works towards Christy and Todd’s wedding, when (I don’t have the book here so I can’t quote) the Bride will “give herself” to her husband on her wedding day (or night). (I’m not even going to go into the whole “woman as object” problem with this since that’s another whole topic altogether.) The very last few pages of the Christy series culminate in a conversation with Christy’s Dad, in which he tells her how proud he is to be giving her away knowing that she *waited*, that she is pure on her wedding day. I can’t quite remember… but I think some metaphor is evoked about the wind in the trees applauding her on this as she walks towards Todd – the ‘Man of faith’ that God planned for her (arguably since before she was born, or at least, since the first book when Christy meets Todd at aged fourteen). While this idealistic ending might seem like a simple happily-ever-after romance that bears no further examination, I actually feel that Christian Teen Fiction has alot to answer for in its perpetuation of such a narrative. While fairytales are myths which re-inscribe values regarding marriage and monogamy which are often shared by both Christianity and patriarchal society, the narratives of these Christian novels also stand as products of the Faith itself. This being, I feel they warrant a critique outside of ordinary fairytale or fiction. For me, applying the patriarchal fairytale to modern Christian teen fiction is problematic for a number of reasons: 
1. The ‘Christian’ novel is changed from a narrative centered around a faith journey with the goal being a closer experience or understanding of God, to a romance infused with religious values, with the goal being the attainment of a God-ordained Prince Charming.
2. Fate and Destiny of romance novels and fairytales are replaced by God – who plans and ordains events and the ultimate happiness of the protagonists. Further, God becomes like a genie who grants the wishes of those who trust him.
3. The books perpetuate unrealistic expectations for Christians regarding romance. In reality, most of us are not going to get married at aged nineteen to the first boy that we kiss or meet at fourteen. While this might seem an erroneous point that applies to all fairytales and romance novels (the ‘that’s why their fantasy’ argument) it is problematic for the Christian in that a force that they attribute as real in their lives (God) is also a present and powerful force in the book. Sure, you might argue, Christians aren’t dumb – they can tell the difference between the ‘real’ God and the God in the Christy Miller Series. But from personal experience, the myths perpetuated in the Christy Miller series (that of God planning the ‘one’ for you) are alive and well in real life. Which brings me to my next point…
4. The books are damaging to young Christians faith. I know this sounds extreme and I’m not usually one for making extreme claims akin to the ones in the ‘letters’ section of The Age, but this time I’ll stand by it. I don’t know how many Christian girls I know who are waiting patiently hoping that they meet their Prince Charming; the Christian boy who God has planned for them. This happily-ever-after marriage belongs to the package of marketable Christianity of the ‘prosperity doctrine’ brand. Bible verses such as the good ol’ Jeremiah 29:11 are happily isolated to prop up this idea: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a future and a hope.” This verse is applied out of context to just about anything in pop-Christianity. For Christian girls in western patriarchal society, those plans include the fairytale ending with the husband of their dreams. But sadly, it’s not what all of them get. Just like in the secular world, some miss out. What happens then? For non-Christian’s, I guess it’s bad luck and a Bridget Jones (before Mr Darcy) life of one night stands and cigarettes. But for Christian’s, who have a “loving God” calling the shots instead of “luck” – well, it can be faith shattering. Now, I have alot of other reasons for no longer following Christianity, but I think this need not be one. The Christy Miller series, which ascribes its happily-ever-after to God instead of luck, encourages the problematic, counter-gospel message of pop-Christianity; that if you follow God, all your dreams will come true. When they don’t, faith rapidly declines. In this respect, the Christy Miller Series set teenage girls up for a fall.
5. Changing tacts, the books encourage a glorified view of sex, and perpetuates purity myths through fear. One of the things that bothers me the most about Christian marriage is the use of the metaphor of the Church as a Bride and Jesus as a Groom. Sure, this is in the Bible, but it’s used as a metaphor to describe the Return of Christ as being like a marriage, not as a metaphor to describe marriage as being like humanity’s union with Christ. In its inversion, which is constantly used at just about every Christian wedding I’ve been to, this metaphor makes marriage out to be a spiritual union through which the couple attains a closer likening to Jesus. This has to be the most ridiculous myth about Christian marriage. The Christy Miller series, which of course uses this metaphor in ‘I Promise’, is a clear example of the way that Christian romance, marriage, and sexual union are glorified through association with God, who makes the union a holy sacrament. The fact that sex is never actually discussed but only vaguely implied works to create an even more unrealistic and fantastical view of sex – it becomes the culmination of the couples spiritual union – a vision far from the awkward, clumsy and painful experience that the couple’s first time is likely to be.
In conjunction with this glorification of marriage (and sex), the Christy Miller Series, like much popular Christian myth, perpetuates sexual abstinence before marriage through fear. No, it’s not the fire and brimstone fear of judgement, death or eternal punishment belonging to an older, more conservative brand of Christianity, but it’s watered-down equivalent for modern women – fear of missing out on ‘the one’. The Christy Miller series supports a popular idea that sexual morality is the scale on which God’s favour in this area of marriage is measured. Sure, it never explicitly says that the slut will never find a good man, but this is implied in the realization of the opposite – the chaste girl being rewarded. Christy is rewarded with Todd because of her trust in God and her resistance of temptation when opportunities arise. The series skirts around discussion of sex – again quoting the Bible for its explanation – “do not awaken love until it so desires” (Song of Songs 2:7). Sexual experimentation, ‘dating’ (especially of non-Christians) is discouraged lest this interfere with the delivery of God’s ‘chosen one’. Thus, the series encourages sexual morality through a threat specific to its target audience – you won’t get the guy if you sleep around.
Well, I realise this has turned into a considerable rant raising alot of problems I have with religion that extend far beyond Christy Miller. But these books have certainly been an influence on plenty of girls including myself and embody alot of issues that I find very problematic in popular Christianity. The disillusionment I’ve experienced firsthand when God doesn’t work like He does in Christy Miller has contributed significantly to my own exploration and discovery of the patriarchal myths that continue as dominant forces behind pop-Christianity.


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July 9, 2009 at 1:16 am
bookworm90
yeah duh… life is not a fairly tale..
but the Christy miller series is an encouragement for girls to same themselves until marriage.
this is a big topic these days.
we need more books like this to point girls in the right direction.
MARRIAGEs and relationships are going downhill
because they are not Godly based.
I support Robin Jones Gunn all the way
July 9, 2009 at 7:59 am
blackingoutthefiction
Firstly, I’m interested in what makes you conclude that this is the ‘right direction’ to point girls in?
I agree that life isn’t a fairy tale (as I discussed), and this is why I think the Christy Miller series gives girls unrealistic expectations. It differs from a secular romance because God is the one who ordains the pairing of the couple. If you are a girl and you believe God is real, then don’t you think that could be disillusioning to be “holding out until marriage” or until “the one” comes along, and wondering why God isn’t delivering him?
September 6, 2009 at 12:49 pm
ano
There is a god and the wait till marriage still applys but some of us it jus isn’t the right time but God has a plan and a purpose for us
September 9, 2009 at 11:16 am
Rita
Hey love, You actually makes some really well thought out opinions on this one that i totally agree with!!! Would love to chat properly about theses things when i return if u want… let me know. xox
September 26, 2009 at 12:38 am
Tony
Can’t comment on the book – didn’t read it. Agree that life is not always like the movies – or the books.
But I did read my Bible, in context, and your explanation of the marriage metaphor between Christ and the church is out of context and not exactly scriptural. In fact, that metaphor is evoked consistently to demonstrate both the love and sacrifice that Christ provided the church (his bride), but also as an example of the type of love, dedication, and forgiveness that is to be exercised in marriage. Regardless of an individual, or modern cultural acceptance – this is what the Bible teaches.
October 16, 2009 at 11:14 am
H
At the end of the day people believe wat they want to believe and if people believe in christianity or that there is a God then its up to them. Life i not a fairy tale and most things do not happen the way we wish they should bt isn’t it up to someone to make this decision. Some ppl wait and are glad, they waited some ppl aren’t n at the end of the day if christy milller is an inspiration to young girls its up to them to believe wat they want because different ppl have different experiences. so maybe ur opinion does not ave 2 be universalised as well as christy’s.
October 23, 2009 at 5:18 pm
chris
That she GAVE herself to him has zero to do with objectification….it has to do with the ridiculous woman as gatekeeper role that the church seels regarding sex. She no more GAVE herself than he GAVE himself.
they, if they buy the SHE gave model, will go through life never REALLY coming together sexually, as they both see it not as a gift from God to THEM, but a gift from HER to HIM.
later, she will grow tired of GIVING….and he will be miserable. Largely because of how this is framed and taught.
June 16, 2010 at 10:52 pm
May
Well, um to burst your bubble but, Christy did not wait like a perfect little girl until some guy dropped off at her doorstep wearing a shirt saying “I’m Your One.” And, there are many times in the series where Christy wished to speed ahead of Todd and just ask him out. She did make mistakes, like Rick for instance. Life isn’t perfect, and our Christianity will not be shattered just because we’re waiting for Prince Charming. It’s a relationship with a God who loves and care for you. No other religion’s ‘god’ cares about the worshipper, at all.
So, go and bag on some disney princesses, instead of
a inspiring girl who tried to live right.
June 17, 2010 at 4:19 am
blackingoutthefiction
June 17, 2010 at 4:21 am
blackingoutthefiction
July 26, 2010 at 8:46 pm
tadwyoming©2010
Good who?
December 17, 2010 at 5:40 am
Jaycee
1. While I am a Christian, I do agree with you somewhat here– not with your overall views on God and sexuality, but with the fact that these books are poorly written and emphasize preaching over storyline and character development.
2. I will read your blog again when you become less angry and vitriolic.
April 7, 2011 at 6:55 pm
Louise
I think the books are fine as of I read them myself. They are great for teenagers since the age they are in. Christy Miller and her Forever Friends inspire me and other teenage women. I want my children to read it and so forth.
Tell me when you change your mind and get a better attitude
Louise
September 12, 2011 at 2:33 pm
Ashley
I stumbled on your blog during a google search. I just have a thought for you. Have you considered researching the lives of Christians who didn’t live “fairy tale” lives and discovered real life with Christ through suffering? Corrie Ten Boom- concentration camp and Joni Tada- paralyzed from the neck down from a diving accident, both lived lives comparable to hell in many ways. They both discovered the Christ beyond the prosperity doctrine fairy tale. It’s real.
Ashley
April 3, 2012 at 3:31 am
LoveTennis
Wow, this is an awesome blog post! I actually JUST had the realization about an hour ago that the entire Christy Miller series culminates in her marrying Todd…and I read the books, whew, maybe 4 years ago…so I went to search on Google to see if anyone else had thought of the same thing…and then I found this!! I’m so glad that someone else has already articulated all of this out! Not to mention this is really great writing. On the contrary of what some others have said, I don’t think you expressed yourself in an over-the-top way at all…in fact, you even made some concessions to the other argument.
I’m a Christian, but I absolutely, completely agree with what you say about the whole sexuality thing—and now that I look back on it, the whole books just lead up to this one point—Christy and Todd getting married, which is literally the last sentence of the last book. I mean dude, that’s not cool! Marriage isn’t the ultimate goal of life. That’s a great point about Gunn skirting around the issue, never actually mentioning “sex”…I guess it just doesn’t go with the whole super-conservative thing.
Anywhoo, I usually don’t read blogs, or even comment on them, but this was just great, so I felt like I had to say something! Thanks for writing it
May 7, 2012 at 4:09 pm
Honey
hi, i stumbled on this, and it found it interesting, i haven’t read d book series but ave an idea from what you have written.
Christians have always put God in a box, we never truly represent him as we should. That the books may not be the best written books don’t change the fact that God is God and is in control which is what i’m guessing is in the core of the book. Try to remember the book was written by a person who is also working out her salvation and growing each day in her knowledge of Him.- i think books should come with such a disclamier
You are right, books written like that give a faulty impression of the christian walk and will feed the imagination of teenagers setting them up for a fall. they (the books, message) miss out on a core message/ truth; If you follow God, ALL your dreams will come through- Not just in the way YOU have planned it/ dreamt it, nor will it happen the way it happened to your friend. it’s not “our will” be done, but “His will”, “His way”…this is a difficult pill to swallow i think- it was for me.
Not getting this truth, is what leads to the disillusionment a majority of disillusioned christians feel. Again, the bible does tell us that each persons path is different and unique with times and seasons happening to all.
Whatever has lead to your disillusionment with God, l pray it will melt away so you can have revelation and know the truth.
May 12, 2012 at 1:55 am
Anonymous
I agree with much of your post, even as a Christian. Of course, this may be biased due to my being asexual. But still, I thought it was a nice point, although I have not read these books in particular it is one flaw I find in a lot of Christian literature. As a matter of fact, I was right with you until I started reading the comments.
There is absolutely no reason for anyone to be so blatantly rude TO A READER BASE who has taken the time and effort to respond to your blog. You may not agree with their opinions, but you do not know a definate answer to the issue any more than anyone does. It is all a matter of opinion. And no opinion, no matter whether you perceive it to be right or wrong, should be referred to as a failed attempt to be intelligent. When you make a generalisation, especially, it turns a whole group of people away angry whether they had up to that point shared your opinion or not.
The people who are talking about you having an attitude problem are absolutely correct. Because they aren’t referring to your article, they’re referring to your comment ettiquite.
I was going to read this blog, but in case you are normally that bitter and rude in your comments I think I had better not.
May 12, 2012 at 8:14 am
Heather
Hi there,
I just got your comment hope you’ll take a couple of minutes to read this.
Although you’re a total stranger and I guess it doesn’t make any difference since you don’t know me, you are among the people who took the time and effort to read my blog, as you said.
Firstly, I don’t blog at this site anymore, I just haven’t figured out how to remove the blog so every so often I get responses. I don’t make any justifications against what you said, I think you are pretty much right about the comments I made (which I have now deleted). I will say in my defence that that blog post is almost three years old and I was in a very different spot when I wrote it to what I am in now. I agree that my comments were vitrolic, I was suprised when I re-read them just now at just how angry I was. All I can say in retrospect is that everyone has a journey and that was an (unfortunate) part of mine.
Thanks for reading,
Heather.